Paperback book -- 160 pages -- ACTA Publications -- May 2006
If your parents are separated or divorced, then you're already an expert in the feelings and emotions that can develop from such a disaster. What you may not be an expert in, however, is how best to channel and learn from those feelings. Author Lynn Cassella- Kapusinski endured her own parents' divorce when she was eleven, and she has written Now What Do I Do? to share her own experiences to make your journey easier.
Now What Do I Do? is written as a workbook to help you vent some of your anger, fear and frustration over your parents' breakup. Some of the activities are fun while others are more serious; some are designed to be done alone, others can be done with friends. The point of this book is to help you realize that you are not alone as you go through this tough time.
The chapters include:
- Feeling Bummed Out: How Do You Deal with It?
- Blame: Whose Fault Is It Anyway?
- Self-Esteem: Am I Any Good?
- Parents: If I Ignore the Problems, Will They Go Away?
- Parents: What Am I Going to Do with Them?
- Family: Will I Ever Have One Again?
- War Zone: How Do I Get Out?
- Anger: How Do I Get Past It?
- God: Where Are You When I Need You?
- Forgiveness: What If I Don't Want To?
Visit the website for Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski's organization Faith Journeys Foundation.
This book is a unique weaving of spirituality, psychological insight, and the author's personal triumph as a child of divorced parents. I cannot think of another resource for adolescents on this important topic that is so well done.
The Most Reverend Edwin F. O'Brien, Archbishop of Baltimore, MD
As a teenager, Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski lived through the divorce of her parents which was a painful and heartbreaking experience. However, out of that difficult time in her life, she has grown in wisdom and grace to write a heartfelt and practical guide for teens to assist them in their journey toward healing when they experience the tragedy of divorce and the breaking apart of a family. Knowing that separation and divorce have devastating consequences on families and children, Ms. Cassella-Kapusinski seeks to help teenagers overcome the difficulties that their parents' choices have made in their lives.
By coping with grief in a healthy way, overcoming the tendency to blame themselves, learning healthy relationship skills, avoiding the conflicts between their parents and finding God's help in the process, teenagers can come to regain a sense of wholeness again. Ms. Cassella-Kapusinski has created an interactive tool to assist teens in their search for peace, forgiveness and healing in the presence of a loving God who is with them in their trials.
His Eminence Donald Cardinal Wuerl, Archbishop of Washington, DC
In this wonderful book, Cassella-Kapusinski provides insightful ways by which adolescents can take charge of the issues surrounding their parents' separation or divorce. By tackling such critical concerns as anger, forgiveness, guilt and self-esteem enveloped in exercises and stories, her book will soothe and stretch the teenager's wounded soul. Aimed at individuals as well as groups, the book promises to provide healing and hope for many.
Reverend Kevin Gillespie, S.J., Ph.D., Interim Dean,
Loyola University Chicago, School of Social Work
This guide, written as a workbook to help teens put the spotlight on their very personal situation, rings with authenticity and truth. I especially commend the author for pointing out that all of us are "human and imperfect." She doesn't gloss over the need to forgive those who hurt us, including parents. But, most important, from her own experience she helps young people see that they can learn much and emerge stronger from this walk through such a tough time.
Antoinette Bosco, syndicated columnist with the National Catholic News Service, freelance writer with over 200 magazine articles, thousands of newspaper stories, and 7 books to her credit.
The author writes from her own experience of her parents' divorce in language that is understood easily by teens and respectful of their experience. She invites her readers to trust that God can bring good out of pain and forge new family bonds out of brokenness. This book needs to be in the hands of anyone working with teens and in the hands of teens themselves.
Sister Kathleen Hine, SND, who worked in Catholic schools for more than 20 years.
Unfortunately, with marriage sometimes comes divorce and upset children. Now What Do I Do? affords teens the opportunity to explore their feelings and emotions during this time. Lynn Cassella-Kapusinski has given teens an excellent tool to assist them on their journey of healing.
William F. Urbine, D.Min., Director, Office of Family Life Ministries,
Diocese of Allentown, ordained deacon and therapist in private practice
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